Do you remember that time he wronged you? What about the time she did not show the proper respect? Or the time someone slighted a friend, although he was not really a close friend, just close enough that you have a hard time looking her in the eye these many years later for what she did?
Of course you do. Well, at least you remember someone else doing something like that. We would never hold a grudge or refuse to forgive someone! Who do you think we are, the Hatfield’s or McCoy’s?
If you were to ask me for one piece of advice that would help make the world a better place, I think I would have to say: “Don’t get so worked up over things that really and truly don’t matter. Let it go.” But it is much easier said than done, isn’t it. We remember wrongs and quietly hold them hostage in the back of our minds, bringing them out when they suit our needs as ammunition to wound others.
The writer of Proverbs reminds us “it is to one’s glory to overlook an offense” (19.11).
So here is a question. That person against whom you have held a grudge and refused to let off easily for what he or she has done. What would happen if you simply walked away and forgot the event every happened. That’s right, just walked away. Would your life suffer for it? Hers?
Let’s try it. I’m walking now. Walking away from the hate and hurt and toward the person who wronged me, because the relationship is more valuable than the ongoing separation.
How about you? Where are you walking?